an open letter to the “invisible girl”
because you deserve your flowers too 💐
dear invisible girl,
i get it. i really do.
a few days ago, i was scrolling on tiktok and while i don’t remember the topic of a certain video i stumbled across, in the comments, someone had written, “i’m convinced i’m invisible.” and it kind of broke my heart because i feel the same way.
as a shy girl who’s felt overlooked and undervalued in various spaces throughout my life, i see you. and i understand how painful it feels.
seeing louder, more outgoing people get the job or the friends or the guy. feeling like this world isn’t made for people like you. feeling like you don’t matter. maybe you tell yourself things like,
“girls like me don’t get the job opportunities.”
“girls like me don’t get the boy.”
“girls like me don’t matter.”
“girls like me finish last.”
and then we believe it long enough until it becomes true…
unless you decide not to live in that truth (which is actually a lie). because what you may not realize is that your shyness is a gift.
but how??? here are some things i’ve learned about the power of shyness:
1). it makes us sensitive and aware of other people who may also feel shy or left out.
if there’s one thing about me: i will always try my best to include everyone. however awkward it may be (ya know, because im shy too), i’m on a longstanding mission to make sure no one goes unnoticed.
2). it makes us more appreciative of the opportunities that come our way.
although you may not feel like you get many of the same opportunities more outgoing people get, when you finally do cross paths with those opportunities and those people who love us wholeheartedly, it feels so much more special.
3). you’re fully seen and fully known by the One who sees and knows you best.
you may not feel seen to others, but you’re never invisible to God. and you may not believe in God but i’m still gonna tell you that because it’s true. and how do iknow that? because i’ve felt it - through beautiful, perfectly placed clouds in the sky, or random texts from people i haven’t heard from in years, or a silly, but needed video popping up on my fyp. when you feel loved and unseen, look for the little things that reveal just how much you matter to God.
and one more thing: you’re not invisible.
so let this post serve as a reminder that you are seen and you matter just as much as the loudest person in the room. so don’t let the lies you’ve believed about your personality hold you back from going after the things you want.
you are loved, you have so much value, and you deserve good things too.
always,
itunu 🫶🏾